When the Time is not Right


I reckon this happens to everyone sooner or later.

Spending time, by Stefano Corso

You’re traveling to a place you’ve long dreamed of, maybe visiting a famous landmark or experiencing what you imagined as the trip of a lifetime. Then you suddenly realize that something simply doesn’t click and you start thinking “is that all?”. Or, even worse, “what am I doing here?”.

Sometimes it’s just that the time is not right”

Expectations influence how we feel while traveling and the ability to appreciate a place, its people and culture. But looking deeper, I’ve often thought that the most probable reason for my disappointment was because the time was not right.

Wat Phra That Doi Suthep

Over the years, it happened a few times, when I was not expecting it.

The most significant case was Bangkok. It was my first trip to Asia and I felt excited with anticipation, looking forward to see the bustling life, the culture and the temples.

Unexpectedly…

I disliked Bangkok from the very first moment, finding it noisy, dirty and unfriendly.

Since I wanted to have enough time to get ‘acclimatised’, I decided to stay a few days, exploring the city, visiting the temples, tasting food. Useless. I couldn’t get rid of my first impression, and for years I kept being persuaded that Bangkok was the ugliest city in the world, a place I would hopefully never go back.

When my best friend visited Bangkok a few years later, feeling so enthusiastic that he went back two more times, I started weighing my perceptions and wondered that maybe it was just not the right time. I was arriving from Nepal, where I had just had a wonderful time immersed in the mountains and the small villages, and thoroughly enjoyed the beautifully decorated temples.

What if I had first visited Bangkok? What if I had the chance to discover it today, with different eyes?

I felt a similar frustration a couple of times in the USA, in Boston and in New York.

I had read and heard a lot about Boston, often described as the most ‘European’ city in the United States and for that reason one of the favorites by the visitors from the Old Continent.

Boston in the Mirror

Strange enough, while I can’t say that I didn’t like it, Boston did not really arouse much wonder inside me. I found it nice, but nothing more than that, and couldn’t help comparing it to London and renewing my love for the British Capital.

New York was not new to me when I went in February last year to attend the Social Media Week. I had already visited the ‘Big Apple’ four times and felt excited to go back. What happened, though, is that I was feeling uncomfortable.

Instead of enjoying the vibrant atmosphere of the city, I found the noise extremely annoying, as well as the cars and the crowd. Unable to cope with the cold, I sometimes could barely make up my mind to go out and explore something new. Where was the enthusiasm I had experienced during my previous trips? How was it possible feeling happy to go back home?

Travel is like a sentimental relationship. Both parties must feel involved.

Thinking over these negative feelings, I guess that traveling is similar to a sentimental relationship. It can work only if both parties are involved. Most likely, it was not the right time for me, and this prevented me to experience all these places had to offer with the necessary openness.

Do you ever feel or think that the time is not right?

 


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About Me

Travel addict and passionate about photography, Simon Falvo started Wild About Travel back in 2009. Leveraging her strong PR background, she developed an extensive knowledge of Digital Communications and Content Creation. Besides travel writing Simon holds workshops and trainings, she collaborated with tourism boards for digital marketing campaigns and participated as a speaker at several events.

9 thoughts on “When the Time is not Right”

  1. I agree. I just had a disappointing experience at Plitvice Lakes in Croatia that I posted about.

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  2. I totally agree!
    I have the same dislike of Bangkok, which is really about timing. The first time I was there I was passing through on the way to and from Cambodia for a 6 months stay, and so it just didn’t seem as friendly and like “home” like PP. And each visit back, as much I have tried to like it, it’s just hasn’t grabbed me as it has so many others.
    So it is totally about timing, and that sentimental relationship you are talking about. Completely – you have to be open to a place to love it!

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  3. I completely know that feeling. Oddly enough, I was disappointed with India when I first visited in 1999, I thought “ok, I’ve seen it, I never need to come back here”. However, my work has taken me back to India several times since and my experiences have been completely different. India grew on me in absence, and every time I’ve returned, I’ve loved and appreciated it all the more. Now I can’t imagine ever having not loved it! Just goes to show that as travelers, we mustn’t be too quick to judge a destination over our own “readiness” to truly appreciate it.

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    • Glad that you share my views, Kymri. And you put things in such great words! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

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  4. Interesting thoughts, Simon. Does timing matter, or mood, or the people you’re with or happen to meet along the way – who knows…

    That said, I’m not a huge fan of either of those three cities either.

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  5. There are several times I’ve felt underwhelmed after building up something in my mind. Beijing was one of those. I could appreciate it, but wouldn’t want to go back. Believe it or not, Costa Rica is the other place. I studied there in the mid-90s before it became such a tourist mecca. I loved it so much then. When I returned a few years ago, it just wasn’t the same. I could take it or leave it. Meh…

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    • You’re too good, Lynne. I’m so glad you enjoyed the piece!

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